There are essentially 3 tears of sex and unfortunately you’re probably on the 1st one, but fortunately you are on this email list for a reason, right?
The 1st tier is Porn sex. Or sometimes I like to call it chocolate bar sex.
The thing is is that the only sexual education that we actually get is from p*rn. We really don’t learn anything in school and sex and pleasure is such a taboo topic in our society. Before internet days, a long, long time ago before the Catholic Church such heavily influenced our society, information used to be passed down in community connection and conversation from our elders.
Now sex is a sin and it is completely taboo to talk about so we have no one to ask anything about it with and we’re just told we should "just know" what to do because we have the body parts…
But really we are curious as humans and we want to learn so we go and look it up on the internet. But the thing is on the internet, it is an exploitive, quick dopamine hit, that is inherently traumatic for a nervous system.
And many of us as women who have sex with men… We make a romantic story in our mind of what sex should be like, then we go to have sex with a man, and he treats us like porn, and we leave being more traumatized. Whether it’s conscious or subconsciously.
So we fake it. We fake it so hard we don’t even know we’re faking it because we don’t feel safe to speak up or explore what we actually desire.
And quick orgasm goal oriented sex, is equivalent in our nervous system to when you’re hungry you go grab a chocolate bar.
You’re either going to feel sick or you’re going to feel like it’s not enough and you'll want more and more.
Or when you’re sad and then you shop online… It might solve the “problem“ for a moment, but the problem is going to reoccur all over again.
It’s not nourishing and profound. It’s like having McDonald’s… you end up just regretting it really, yet somehow McDonald’s is a multi-billion company… Exploiting our nervous systems on quickly getting the dopamine hit.
The 2nd tier is Holistic Sex.
This tier of sex is when you start wanting to go past just porn. You start wanting to explore more, maybe your exploring kink or “lifestyle". Maybe you start to learn about your different erotic blueprints and you want to explore different types of sex for a longer amount of time.
The great thing about this tier is, the first thing it means is that you feel safe enough to start exploring. Because you’re nervous system needs to feel safe enough in order to start exploring. If you don’t feel safe enough to actually express interest in exploring past p&rn sex, then you’re going to be stuck in tier 1 forever.
And if you’re on this email list, you probably have a little bit of knowledge of why you don’t feel safe in order to start exploring.
This is the particular thing that my course in my membership teaches you,; is to have a foundation in your nervous system that feels safe enough so you can start expanding and exploring past what you already know.
Starting to dismantle what you think sex and pleasure is and starting to look past it and believe there is much more possibilities out there.
Sex goes from being a chore into being something you’re genuinely curious and interested about.
And then there’s tier 3… Tantric or Primal Sex!
This is when sex becomes an art, it becomes sacred, it becomes ritualistic. It becomes deeply important to you so you carve out time in your schedule to create ritual around pleasure with yourself and/or your partner/s in order to experience sex at a level that becomes beyond what your mind could ever think it could be.
Tantric sex is deeply mastering the art of how Tantra articulates what an orgasm is: “mind shift". When it is beyond your cognitive mind, and it becomes a deeply embodied experience that becomes primal where you are no longer thinking you are just in the flow of experiencing.
Sex becomes psychedelic without having to take any substances whatsoever! Sex becomes healing and has manifestation powers! You know how to work with your sexual energy, your vitality, your life force energy! Sex and pleasure and orgasm go way beyond the bedroom and become extremely expansive. It moves into your whole life so you can have pleasure and orgasm in every aspect of your life!
This is where you see yourself as the divine and you see your partners as an expression of the divine as well! It becomes a deeply sacred experience. You realize that you have no more blocks around it or when you meet your blocks, you enthusiastically move into them because you know how to move through them.
This is where you start to function completely differently, and your life starts to craft around you completely differently as well. Authenticity, confidence, spirituality, sacred ritual, and exploration beyond what you could ever imagine.
No, I don’t have to really tell you but I will anyway…
Moving through these tiers is EXACTLY the process I bring you through in The Pleasure Witch Coven.
If you want to start having Tantric sex, you need a foundation in your own nervous system and you need to align your path specifically with it.
If you are not in alignment with your “Northstar“ (whatever universe energy that is guiding you), then you will stay in tier 1 forever.
And I’m not going to sugarcoat it for you, but it is a fight if you are stuck in a trauma loop that holds you there.
Aka numbness, shutdown, avoidance, pain, sadness, anger/frustration.
If you are convincing yourself that you don’t need to progress in your sex life, or if you “can’t” for whatever reason (money, time, fear, the list goes on), then you are lying to yourself. And you’re stuck in this conditioning of telling you that you are not worthy or deserving of it.
But what is so incredibly true about this work that you only realize in hindsight (good thing I am here in your hindsight to tell you from your future lol) is that the universe could create anything and it created you! It created you and biologically wired you to have the ability to have incredible Tantric sex!
Therefore, this process of you moving through the tiers, is profoundly sacred.
And THIS is what this “life transformation” work is all about.
I need you to trust me in the fact that feeling your pain in order to move through it, is not nearly as bad as holding yourself down and staying in the cycle of your pain/trauma. You have all this Tantric sex that you could be having waiting around the corner!!!
See you in the coven my love....
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